my journey
As a little girl, like most children, I was wild, free, creative, and full of life! I loved making up dances, singing (a lot of Debbie Gibson Paula Abdul, and Madonna), making movies, and putting on plays for my parents!
The more I was educated and conditioned to the rules and expectations of my family, culture, and society, my voice was dimmed and I became a quiet, shy version of myself.
I became the best PEOPLE PLEASER you could ever meet.
My focus turned from free expression of self to how to please/appease whoever was in front of me, and as such, I lost all connection with my own body's inner guidance system (my intuition).
Because of my disconnection from my inner voice and my keen ability to tap into other's needs, I allowed myself to accept unacceptable treatment in my relationships to the point of great detriment.
During my sophomore of college I studied abroad in France. It was there, at age twenty, that I entered into my first 10 year relationship with the man who would become my first husband.
Because I was unable to set healthy boundaries for myself, I quickly entered into a dynamic in which I gave most of my power away to him. I allowed myself to become smaller and smaller as I gave more and more of my power away to him.
Ten years later, when I had the clarity around my need to leave and the courage to follow through, I walked right into the next relationship that would become my second husband.
Because I had not taken the time to recalibrate and get to know who I was on my own, I fell right back into the same unhealthy pattern of disregarding my own needs and allowing someone else to have power over me.
I have found that the Universe will give you the opportunity to learn a certain lesson over and over again until you have mastered it.
In other words, if you don't take the time and conscious effort to unravel why something is happening in your life, you will continue to repeat the same pattern over and over again.
When it became clear to me that my second marriage was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive, I knew that something in my life HAD TO CHANGE!
It was at this point that I began a SPIRITUAL QUEST FOR TRUTH, and I have been on that journey ever since.
The first question that I asked God (Goddess, Source, Universe) over and over again was, "PLEASE SHOW ME THE TRUTH."
I began to be led to certain books and podcasts and began working with counselors, coaches, and therapists. I participated in multiple masterminds and women's healing workshops. Finally, I received my Master's Coaching Certificate and began taking clients of my own.
I have learned so many things such as the importance of:
*Speaking your TRUTH
*Listening to your INTUITION
*Sitting in SILENCE to cultivate awareness of your inner voice
*Allowing your EMOTIONS to move through you from a place of non-judgement
*DANCING to the tune of your own drum (Releasing concern for other's opinions)
*Releasing your SHAME and GUILT
*FORGIVING yourself for your past
*FORGIVING OTHERS (because they were always showing up to the best of their ability)
*Cultivating GRATITUDE (this attracts more of what you want to you)
*Focusing on WHAT YOU WANT rather than what you don't want
*SURRENDERING to the Universe's dive plan for you
You can access peace and acceptance EVEN as you navigate the most challenging events in your life.
The journey is intense, profound, and at times, super duper hard, but you don't have to do it alone...
As your life coach, I will be ALL IN for you and your path to peace, authenticity, freedom and living in alignment with your divine design.
All my love,
xoxo
Ashley
